Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

by: David Schnarch
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
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The greatest sexual pleasure in a person's lifetime is possible in one's middle and later years, asserts Dr. David Schnarch, when a mature sense of self has been achieved and genuine intimacy is possible with another person. At his Family Health Center in Colorado Dr. Schnarch works with couples in long-term committed relationships who want to get emotionally and sexually closer. In Passionate Marriage Dr. Schnarch shares what he has learned about how couples can--and must--simultaneously break through the sexual and the emotional blocks that hold them back from total satisfaction. He counsels that every sexual exchange, from kissing to daring erotic behaviors, is a picture of an entire relationship--a reflection of how you and your partner feel about yourselves and each other outside the bedroom. This respectful, erotic, uplifting, and spiritual guide to sexual and emotional fulfillment makes a passionate marriage within the reach of every couple.


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People joke that the start of a couple's marriage means theend of their sex life. David Schnarch, a sex therapist praised byPepper Schwartz, uses epiphany-laden conversations taken directly fromhis own marriage and the married couples he sees in practice to helpreaders defy the myth that marriages are necessarily passionless, andinstead prove that the longer a couple has been together, the higherthe fireworks can fly. It's especially aimed at older couples who,Schnarch says, are self-actualized and therefore better able to handleintimacy than younger partners. "People have difficulty withintimacy because they're supposed to," he says, and goes on inthis inspiring book to combine elements of marriage therapy and sextherapy to bring plenty of practical, fresh ideas to the crowd ofmostly vapid relationship books. (Note that despite its title, it'sfor any emotionally committed couple, not just married folks.)

Schnarch says that a man is more likely to let a relationship sufferin order to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt tolet her identity suffer to help strengthen it. Schnarch gives explicittips on how to alter this pattern, an essential step he calls"differentiation." He also explains why compromise isn'talways the best route to take when conflicts arise. The couplesprofiled here deal with the usual suspects: uneven sexual desire andinitiation, battles about oral sex, self-image problems, the"boondoggle" of trust (both of one's self and one'spartner), and the specter of divorce. Instead of focusing on eachclient's weaknesses, Schnarch teaches how to find inner strength andresilience that can be used to reaffirm a relationship and reignitesex.William H. Masters of Masters and Johnson fame calls this book"a classic," and no wonder. --Erica Jorgensen

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Average Rating: out of 5 stars
Rating: 5 out of 5 stars - Amazing Break throughs
I bought this book and another marital self-help book at the same time. I'm happy I read this book second because the first book caused more damage then good, better to have the trouble out of the way first.

While reading this book, I saw a lot of my own marriage in the characters. It was odd yet left me feeling hopeful to see that other marriages are going through almost the exact problems my marriage is going through. I could relate to a lot of what was said in this book. I was so ... Read More
Rating: 5 out of 5 stars - Gutwrenching, lifechanging, gutwrenching
I went over the hell of pain reading this book. I made skyscraper of realizations, and so far made only couple of floors of improvements. I am still in 'five steps forward, four steps back' motion while working on myself. But this lifechanging book... I would recommend it to anyone - married or single, it does not matter. It also does not matter where your lack of integrity pops up - be it work, social life, friendship or marriage. It will pop up everywhere and is rooted in the same causes pointed ... Read More
Rating: 4 out of 5 stars - Keeping love
It's about resolving the issues in a relationship in a way that results in great sex, rather than the other way around.I love about this book is that it isn't just about having great sex/chemistry/passion in general but about having those things with your partner.
The perfect match with this book is I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't
Rating: 4 out of 5 stars - Great
I have learned that it's fine to think about myself first, even during sex. This book freed us from the specter of uneven sexual desire, and battles about oral sex. I also recommend an amazing book in this topic I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't
Rating: 5 out of 5 stars - Are you differentiated?
If you're not, you need to read this book! The passionate Marriage is an excellent book written in a personable manner with excellent anecdotes that demonstrate the concepts the writer is explaining. Reading this book helped me recognize where I wasn't differentiated and where I needed to do some serious internal work to help myself. It's also helped my marriage a lot, in terms of how my wife and I communicate.

If you're having trouble in your marriage or just want to communicate better ... Read More
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